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The Death of Mr. U PDF Print E-mail
Contributed by Senor Guapo   
Tuesday, 17 February 2009
ESL: The Journey into EnglishDelia was one of the students in the first ESL class I had ever been involved in.  I knew of her before because she was a friend of a friend of Mrs. Guapo’s.  Over the years she became a close friend, and together we’ve celebrated Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthdays and other holidays together.  One time we loaned her a lot of money.  I never loaned that much money to anyone before, but it was literally a life or death situation.  Delia worked two jobs for over a year to pay it back.

She’s a gifted cook.  One time I saw people lining up in the rain to get into a restaurant where she was working.  Almost every week a student will bring a gift to Mrs. Guapo.  You’ve heard of the traditional “apple for the teacher”.  Delia brought a rack of ribs and grilled shrimp.

She’s no angel.  She’s struggled with alcoholism.  She’s lost a few jobs because of it.  Sometimes she would get a handle on it, but later when you’d call you could tell that she was drunk.  But despite her challenges, she’s never stolen anything as far as I know, and she’s always worked hard never complaining.  She’s one of the most loyal, dependable friends we’ve ever had.

Around the time I was introduced to Delia, I remember hearing about a “Mr. U”.  His name is Ulysses Carter, but I’ve always heard him referred to as “Mr. U”.  I didn’t know much about him except that he was an African American man who liked Delia.  I never met him.  I didn’t know what their relationship was, but I imagined that Mr. U gave her expensive gifts in exchange for an occasional booty call or something like that.  I was so wrong. She was the love of is life.

Mr. U passed away on February 7 of this year just four days before his 67th birthday.  From what I heard, Delia had gone to his apartment and found him lying on the floor.  She got a neighbor to come in who found no pulse and felt that he was cold.  He was dead.  On February 11 Mrs. Guapo and another woman went to see Delia.  Mrs. Guapo told me that she was very upset.  A funeral service was to be held on February 13.  Mrs. Guapo had to work so I was asked to accompany Delia.

That is how I found out the true nature of their relationship.  The life of Ulysses Carter is a typical American life.  He was born in South Carolina in 1942, the tenth of fifteen children.  When he was three the family moved to Thomasville, North Carolina, where most of his siblings reside to this day.  He was no doubt a country boy.  I had the opportunity to talk with one of his older brothers who still lives in North Carolina.  I could barely understand him his accent was so thick.  After he graduated high school, Ulysses moved to Washington, DC.  During the latter part of his life he worked in restaurants which is how he met Delia.

Delia was never fluent in English which is why I was asked to accompany her to the funeral.  She wanted me to translate for her.  She had never met any of his family and was a little nervous about how she would be received.  When we got there, all the family members wanted to meet her.  They couldn’t have been nicer.  People said that Ulysses would always talk about Delia.  His sister said that whenever she would call him, half the conversation was about Delia.  The flyer given out at the funeral says that Ulysses was very fond of Delia and describes her as the love of his life.  Another sister presented Delia with an 8x10 high school graduation picture of Ulysses.  She asked for Delia’s phone number and plans to keep in touch.

I asked Delia if Mr. U was her friend or something.  She said, “He was my everything.”  She said that Mr. U was always nice to her.  “He always took care of me.  He told me that I was beautiful.”  Delia’s nephew came with us.  He told me that he had met Mr. U a few years ago when he helped him move.  Someone else who had met him said that Mr. U appeared to be a very sweet man.

What I was witnessing was the unfolding of a great love story.  These two were just in love.  The curious thing is that Mr. U didn’t speak any Spanish, and Delia could barely speak English, and Mr. U was 20 years older than Delia.

Anyone who has bothered to read this far is probably wondering if I have a point.  Mr. U was a black man with no more than a high school education.  He’s part of a demographic with the highest unemployment rate and most affected by competition from immigration.  Some of his co-workers showed up at the funeral: two Latinos and an Asian guy none of whom spoke English very well.  Did he complain that their presence reduced his wages by 10%?  Did he whine that they consume more in public benefits than they pay in taxes?  Did he lie on the floor kicking in screaming that they didn’t speak English very well?  No.  He worked with them in the restaurant.  He befriended them.  He fell in love with one of them.
 
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